Alison wrote a post recently about why she wouldn’t eat at Chick-Fil-A, if indeed we had such a thing in Canada. Go read it, it’s really good. She says in part:
“I have a terrible habit of hearing about stuff … going all incandescent with rage, then immediately getting so tired that I can barely lift my fingers to type, and thinking that nothing I say will make a difference anyway.”
And man, do I get that. Michael hears the brunt of it, because I am actually incredibly opinionated and reasonably well-informed. But I’m also a people-pleaser, and my online friends are such a lifeline for me that I often close the laptop and walk away rather than saying what I think, because I don’t want to offend anyone. And why does it make any difference to anyone what I think about climate change, or American politics, or the new math? All I’m doing is winding people up.
Or maybe not. Silence on important issues is never the answer. And by biting my tongue, I’m not really developing my online friendships into something deeper and more real. If you only know sanitized me, then you don’t actually know me at all. And I’m getting too old and crotchety to keep up a bunch of superficial relationships based on my ability to pretend to always see all sides to an argument as equally valid.
Does this I’m going to turn into a grouchy, mean-spirited, argumentative bitch? I certainly hope not. And sometimes I will still close the laptop and walk away. But not always.
Here! My list of possibly-contentious opinions. I may go into more depth on some in future posts. I may not. I’m just getting some things off my chest.
- I wouldn’t eat at Chick-Fil-A, either. Not if I were starving on the sidewalk outside. Does a CEO’s personal opinion affect whether or not I will buy their widget? No. Not unless their profits go to support a cause I strongly disagree with. Then, their personal opinion has become their business identity and if I wouldn’t agree with their opinion why would I give them my money? Does not compute.
- Related – I think “love the sinner, hate the sin” is the biggest bullshit copout in the history of ever.
- If you don’t ‘believe in’ climate change, vaccinations, or the clear evidence-based link between refined sugar and the onset of Type 2 diabetes, I think less of you. Because SCIENCE.
- If you think a happy, well-adjusted child never cries, I think you’re a well-intentioned parent who is raising a future basketcase who can’t cope with failure or struggle.
- If you name your kid something trendy, hard to pronounce, impossible to spell because “the T is silent”, or just plain weird, I will roll my eyes at you. Frequently.
- If you think Stephanie Meyer or E.L. James are good authors who deserve all the money, I’ll never take seriously a single book recommendation you give me. Ever.
- If you never feed your kids fresh produce, especially now during harvest season when it’s all readily-available and inexpensive, I think that’s almost criminally stupid and short-sighted. And I feel sorry for your kids.
- I am pro-choice. I think all women should have access to an abortion if that is the right choice for them, regardless of where they live or what their circumstances are. That said, I would not have one myself. If I honestly felt I couldn’t raise a child, I would put the baby up for adoption.
- If you want to homeschool, I have nothing but respect for you – it’s a full-time job and then some, and takes an amazing amount of dedication and commitment. But ‘unschooling’ just sounds to me like ‘the normal interactions we should all be having with our kids every day anyway’.
- If you think voting conservative, whether in Canada or the US, is automatically the best choice for the economy because ‘conservative’ means ‘careful with money’, I will wonder if you ever read a newspaper with a critical eye. George W. Bush’s government inflated the deficit and debt to ridiculous levels. Stephen Harper’s government took a very comfortable surplus, pissed it away, and didn’t fix the economy or do anything to address Canada’s growing trade deficit or productivity problems. Conservatives are not gifted with supernatural economic powers. Look at the record, not the reputation.
Anyone else? Want to confess an unpopular opinion in the comments?