I was going to write a post about Harry, and how since he turned seven it’s just been one bloody thing after another with him. How he’s moody, sensitive, flounces around in a snit, claims everyone hates him or that things are unfair or that we are mean or whatever.
It’s been a trying time.
Then I typed “seven year old boy is moody” into Google and lo! Results abounded!
(Actually I typed “seven year old boy is m” and Google filled in the “oody” all by itself. That tells you something right there.)
Check this out, oh mothers of seven year olds. In particular, we’ve been struggling with:
- broods and sulks
- is absent-minded
- is easily distracted
- is hard to satisfy
- is easily disappointed
- thinks others are mean, unfriendly, hateful
- worries about everything, including school, money, war, natural disasters, fatal diseases
- wants control & privacy, including his own room
- a lot of self-criticism
- tries to tell the truth but is quick with excuses
- may collect things that don’t really belong to him
After I read all that, courtesy of centerforparentingeducation.org, I thought “huh, a blog post about how my kid being an unlikeable morose jerk seems kind of unfair, given that he’s behaving in a developmentally-appropriate albeit assholish fashion”.
I do wonder though about how to deal with it. Like, the fears and worries and insecurities, I can be sympathetic and supportive, no problem. But the surliness, the complaining, the backtalk! How do I get through to him that those kinds of behaviours Will Not Fly, no sir, uh-uh?
Still working on that one, although I’ll take suggestions from those of you who’ve been through it.